to, uh, talk about us. >> ugh, ladies are such a bummer. >> where is this going? how serious are we? [as elisa] why don't you listen to my story about my friend? >> well, where is it going? ladies like to know what that next step is. they--we can't help ourselves. >> oh, believe me, lemon, i want to take that next step. >> you mean, like, marriage? >> no, the one before that. >> moving in together? that's huge. >> no, the thing you do before that. think you in the mid-'90s. >> you haven't had sex?! >> shh. elisa had a very strict, very religious upbringing. she does not take that step lightly. we have, of course... pleasured one another. >> no, stop! i will leave. >> but she wants me to make some kind of commitment before we go forward. obviously, i care about her a lot. but she keeps confusing me with this ridiculous notion that sex and love are somehow connected. >> okay, two things. one, be honest. if this is a big deal to her, do not take that next step unless you are sure. and second, and more importantly, in 2009, i have done it two more times than you!